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The Best or the Worst?

We each need to make the choice: to make the best or the worst of what we see in others. What do we truly want to see?  Do we have blinders on and can only see one way?  “There is so much good in the worst of us, And so much bad in the best of us, that it hardly becomes any of us, to talk about the rest of us.”  ~ E.W.Hoch

We all need to be reminded of what truly lies within us. Sadly, it is sin even in the best and worst of us.  Do we deal harsher with the sins of our neighbors than our own sinfulness? To say others are bad and we have no faults is to lie and we will always be deceived.  “If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.”  (1 John 1:8)

There is no doubt about it, everyone has weak points and faults. Not one of us is without faults. Romans 3: 23 tell us, “For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God.”  Upon seeing the faults of others, we can see a rotten sinner or we can see a struggling sinner. By looking for the good and seeing past the sinful man, we can hope for equal treatment from our fellow man and our Heavenly Father.  “Be ye therefore merciful, as your father also is merciful.” (Luke 6:36)  “Teach me to feel another’s woe, to hide the fault I see; That mercy I to other’s show, that mercy show to me.”  ~ Alexander Pope

We need to be kind and understanding about other’s weaknesses.  Obviously, we cannot ignore the sin that we may see, for that is not what our Heavenly Father teaches us. Christ loved the sinner, but not the sin. If possible, we should help the struggling sinner.  Maybe we can influence them in a positive way. We should never be harsh and uncaring. Even if all we can offer is a smile and a sincere prayer, we need to give that freely. We do have an influence from what we say and do. “Let no man imagine that he has no influence.”  ~ H. George

We need to be ready to understand and to forgive, even as we hope to be understood and forgiven.  “Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven.” (Luke 6: 37) We should try putting ourselves in the place of others and truthfully ask ourselves how we would want to be thought of or treated if we were in their place.

This important choice is only ours to make: to find the best in our neighbors or to find the worst. We can build up or tear down.  With everyone that we come in contact with, we should extend the law of kindness. We may be uncomfortable with certain individuals, but we all know that Christ himself stepped out of His “comfort zone.” We should not be critical and harsh. Do not take a magnifying glass when you meet someone and examine him or her. Forbid it that anyone should do the same to us!  We are told to examine ourselves in 2 Corinthians 13: 5 and not others.

“God has not called us to see through each other, but to see each other through.” ~ Horace Moody

With our choice we can be like Christ. Or we can choose as Satan would be, and have ignorance and meanness in an unforgiving heart. Bitterness and unforgiveness are a state of being that after a while you get so accustomed to it that you do not even realize the continual hardening of your heart. “But exhort one another daily, while it is called today; lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin.”  (Hebrews 3:13)

We need to choose wisely, and to remember that we all will reap what we sow. Galatians 6: 7 tells us, “Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.”  This short poem, taken from Leaves Of Gold, tells us so clearly that: “If we sow good, good will be given to us. If we sow mercy, we reap mercy. If we sow forgiveness, we shall be forgiven. Sow love and love shall be returned to us. The Judge and Creator of all things is the equalizer.”

God has planned for us all to be saved and live with Him in Glory.  We must remember that all people are worth understanding. We need to try to understand why others do and say what they do. We can only see the good in people if we have goodness in our hearts.  We can only help others to do better by being good ourselves. We would desire for others to see the good in us, so why not look for the good in others?  We can extend a helping hand, teach and pray for others. And when our hand of friendship is struck down, we should not walk away with meanness in out hearts and unkind words on our tongues.

When we do see the worst in others, we can be kind and help in any way possible. We can stand firm in what is right and never coddle the sin. Some people walk a harder road in life and we need to be sure we do not cause them any more hurt or to stumble.  There are some terrible people out in the world, but we can offer a sincere prayer for them and their misfortunes.

“…there is none good but one, that is, God…”  (Matthew 19: 17)

“And ye are Christ’s and Christ is Gods.” (1 Cor. 3:23)

By Susan Follis
Susan Follis lives in Lamar, Colorado. She and her husband, Jim, have been married almost 34 years. They have six children and four grandchildren. She loves learning about being a godly wife and mother.

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Overwhelming Motherhood

As a very small girl, my motherly moments had begun,

I dreamed of weddings and babies and household fun.

I was a wife, a mother, and a teacher, too.

As the years flew by, all my dreams came true.

God made my dreams come true!

Oh, my little beautiful baby girls,

Who are much more precious than diamonds and pearls;

You were wonderful bundles in pink and flowers,

And your smiles and tears held such endless power.

Sugar and kisses from my little misses!

What joy to dress you in ruffles and lace,

And to fix-up your hair with the bows I would place.

I gave you purses and dresses and dolls galore,

And I encouraged you to role play and to explore.

I cherish those memories so!

 My prayerful heart was so full of love and joy,

For each of you three sweethearts, and three darlin’ boys.

I prayed that you would grow in God’s Holy way,

And that you would have childhood dreams come true someday.

Each precious baby is my dreams come true!

 As sweet little children, you played and grew,

And as your mother I was blest to see you through;

Each tear, each cry, each laugh and smile,

Are held in my mother’s heart forever and a while.

Thank you for filling my heart!

I love to watch you grow; past and present,

With godliness, loveliness, and precious patience.

Please remember your mistakes are never overwhelming,

When balanced with learning, laughing and loving.

I have learned so much from loving you!

Oh, what joy to see your arms filled with your own precious dream,

And I pray you will always be satisfied with your mothering means.

May your God-given nurturing of life, both old and new,

Build in you the happiness of Motherhood that will overwhelm you.

As it delightfully overwhelmed me, with you!

By Susan Follis
Susan Follis lives in Lamar, Colorado. She and her husband, Jim, have been married almost 34 years. They have six children and four grandchildren. She loves learning about being a godly wife and mother.


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How is Your Home Security?


Our country is working daily on its national security. Since 9/11, we have developed a branch of security known as, The Department of Homeland Security. Its focus is to keep American citizens as safe as possible from outside threats and violence on American soil. Christians need to pray daily for the safety of America and its citizens. They also need to pray for their own homeland security.

As Christians we need to establish our own plan of home defense. We need to focus on keeping the environment and the citizens of our home as safe as possible from outside threats and violence. As parents, we need to be vigilant and watchful sentinels for our family. Even if our home has no little ones in it, a Christian needs to be on guard for any attacks on the home front.

Colin Campbell, in his article entitled, Homeland Security, taken from the Above Rubies magazine, says, “ Do you believe in border control? Many Americans are concerned about our southern border between Mexico and the USA. It is easy for foreign terrorists to smuggle in weapons of mass destruction… and yet we so easily allow loose border control around our own home. It is imperative that godly parents set up stronger borders around their homes. We must have strict control over the TV programs our family watches. Never be afraid to turn off the TV – or do away with it altogether! We must take control over who our children hang out with, where they are going, and exactly when they will return home.”

Home security is a serious job and one which, if not done correctly, can result in disastrous consequences. The spiritual and physical welfare of your home’s inhabitants is only as secure as you take the time to make it. Low security equals higher risks, and higher security equals lower risks; it’s as simple as that.

As parents, we would never willingly allow someone to physically harm our children or our home life, but we should be even more concerned with our children’s spiritual and emotional health. Many parents take for granted the threats that are out there. Christian parents must put into practice daily the teaching of 1 Peter 5:8, “ Be sober, be vigilant, because your adversary the devil as a roaring lion walketh about seeking whom he may devour.” Be alert, be aware, be watching, and be ready for spiritual attacks on your home and your children! Do not mistakenly believe that your since your children have been taught right from wrong, and that they are good children, that harm could not come to them in some way.

We need to be careful with our acquaintances. Many “good” acquaintances can have an unhealthy affect on those whom God has given to us to protect. Parents need to know who is making an impression and an influence on our children’s hearts. When your children spend the majority of their waking hours away from you, a parent needs to double their efforts to control what is building and shaping their children’s character. Be your child’s main influence for everything in their lives.

It is very important to build a strong home defense and to maintain your home security for the best results. Keep your protection plan up-to-date and well covered in all areas for your children. Keep focused on protecting your marriage and your family. It is good to review daily what events are affecting your security. Double your efforts at any weak spots you may notice. “But you be watchful in all things, endure afflictions, do the work of an evangelist, fulfill your ministry.” 2 Timothy 4:5.

We see in the Old Testament how God’s people built hedges or walls around their vineyards and their cities for protection. Our families deserve the best “hedge of protection” that we can provide. Not a weak or unstable hedge, but a solid and strong wall of safety. Do not be afraid to have the best, top-of-the-line home security. Be careful and do not let others’ opinions of different security levels cause you to relax and become slack in your vigilance.

Build your home security plans with God as the foundation. Pray daily for God’s protection from the evil things of this world. Our children’s souls are at stake and our own, too. We need to work hard to protect our marriage and our home life from the things that will try to destroy it. As a family, stay close for extra strong reinforcements. And, most importantly, do not give the responsibility to someone else! As women, we have been given the job of keeping the home. And that includes all those who dwell inside the home. Just as the gatekeepers of old would be strong and ever vigilant to protect the city, we as “keepers of the home” need to be strong and ever vigilant to protect our homes. God has chosen the job for us and He is expecting us to fulfill His command. We need to watch over, preserve and keep our homes. Be watchful and wise, but enjoy the daily task of taking care of our home and our family. Do not let your guard down! Trust in God to help you in every way to be a good protector.

“Unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who build it;
Unless the Lord guards the city, the watchman stays awake in vain.” Psalm 127: 1

By Susan Follis
Susan Follis lives in Lamar, Colorado. She and her husband, Jim, have been married almost 34 years. They have six children and four grandchildren. She loves learning about being a godly wife and mother.

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Twenty-eight Days to Put on Love

In fitting with the twenty-eight days of February, I thought it would be fun to look at some old love-sonnets and verses. It would be fun to share the verses with our husbands or even to secretly practice them.  Remember the day when your husband said, “Come live with me and be my love”?  He may not have been so poetic, but he was at his sincerest. Let not a day go by that he doesn’t know you are so happy to be his beloved!

The Bible is full of verses of love and those should always be first in our hearts, but one verse I would like to share is in Colossians 3:12-14. “Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering; bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection” (emphasis added).  I really like the phrase, “put on love.”  When we think of love, we do not normally think of it as something we have to put on like a garment. As godly women we need to choose carefully what physical garments we put on and it is easy to see how much more care we should take in putting on our garments of love.

Our garment of love is really for all to see, but I would like to emphasize what we wear as our garment of love for our husbands. Remember the shining, bright and strong garment of love we wore as a newlywed? It was invincible and imperishable. Are we still wearing that beautiful garment or have we covered it up with a cloak of doubt and discontentment? Let us take off any unfit clothing and let our garment of love shine through for all to see, especially our husbands. Let the beauty of a true godly love be seen in us by our husbands.

  1. “True love is a discipline in which each divines the secret self of the other and refuses to believe in the mere daily self.”  ~ Yeats – Practice selflessness!
  2. “Love is blind, jealously sees too much.” ~ Yiddish Proverb – Be blind to flaws!
  3. “Love is missing someone whenever you’re apart, but somehow feeling warm inside because you’re close in heart.” ~ Knudsen   – Miss him!
  4. “Love puts the fun in together, the sad in apart, and the joy in a heart.”  ~ Unknown – Have lots of fun!
  5. “My delight and they delight, walking, like two angels white, In the gardens of the night;”  ~ Bridges – Be his angel.
  6. “Do I love you because you’re beautiful, or are you beautiful because I love you?” ~ Rodgers & Hammerstein, Cinderella – Be beautiful inside!
  7. “Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit.” ~ Ustinov – Give that tender look!
  8. “Who being loved, is poor?”  ~ Wilde  – No financial complaints!
  9. “Take away love and our earth is a tomb.” ~ Browning – Fill everywhere with love!
  10. “He felt now that he was not simply close to her, but that he did not know where he ended and she began.” ~ Tolstoy  – Crazy-love!
  11. “Sometimes the shortest distance between two points is a winding path walked arm in arm.” ~ Brault    – Hand in hand!
  12.  “The love game is never called off on account of darkness.” ~ Masson – Or anything!
  13.  “You know you are in love when you don’t want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”  ~ Dr. Seuss – Be sleepless!
  14.  “Love and a cough cannot be hid.”  ~ Herbert – Don’t hide it!
  15.  “A man is not where he lives, but where he loves.” ~ Latin Proverbs – Where does he love?
  16.  “You can give without loving, but you can never love without giving.” ~Unknown  – Be generous!
  17.  “Absence diminishes small loves and increases great ones, as the wind blows out the candle and fans the bonfire.” ~ Rochefoucauld – A candle or bonfire?
  18.  “As the bow unto the cord is, so unto the man is woman. Though she bends him, she obeys him, though she draws him, yet she follows, Useless each without the other.” ~ Longfellow  – Bend, obey, draw, and follow.
  19.  “I love thee with the breath, smiles, tears, of all my life. And, if God choose, I shall but love thee better after death.” ~ Browning – Breathe love!
  20. “The test of our love to God is the love we have one for another.” ~ Unknown – Will you pass the test?
  21.  “The kindest and the happiest pair will find occasion to forbear; and something, everyday they live, to pity, and to perhaps forgive.” ~ Cowper  Always forgive!
  22. “Duty makes us do things well, but love makes us do them beautifully.” ~ Brooks  – Not duty-bound, but love-bound.
  23.  “For you see, each day I love you more, Today more than yesterday and less than tomorrow.” ~ Gerard  – Build love!
  24.  “A hundred hearts would be too few to carry all my love for you.” ~ Unknown  – Abundant love.
  25.  “Love begets respect, respect begets appreciation, appreciation begets loyalty, loyalty begets devotion, devotion begets honor, and honor begets the truest love of all.”  ~S.F.  – Begin your begets!
  26.  “If ever two were one, then surely we. If ever man were lov’d by wife, then thee; If ever wife was happy in a man, Compare with me ye women you can.”   ~ Bradstreet   – Be one!
  27.  “I love thee, I love thee, ‘Tis all that I can say; It is my vision in the night, My dreaming in the day.”  ~ Hood   – Be his vision!
  28.  “Will you love me in December as you do in May, Will you love me in the good old-fashioned way? Will you kiss me then and say, that you love me in December as you do in May?”  ~ Walker – Love in December!

By Susan Follis
Susan Follis lives in Lamar, Colorado. She and her husband, Jim, have been married almost 34 years. They have six children and four grandchildren. She loves learning about being a godly wife and mother.


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Establishing Etiquette, Making Manners

I came across an older article entitled, “Unclassified Laws of Etiquette: Important Rules of Conduct.” The author is unknown and the date is not mentioned.  While reading through, you can tell that the article must have been written around the beginning of the 20th century.  I really enjoyed the various suggestions for proper decorum.  The word “etiquette” is rarely used these days and it means a set of rules that can tell you how to behave in various social situations.  In our present times we would use the word “manners” rather than “etiquette,” but sadly neither is strongly used or taught today.

This article’s list of rules is long, but I would like to share some of the rules presented. Many are common courtesies that have faded away with time.  Some would be laughed at if applied today. But all of them are important and can only result in a more pleasant person and situations. As Christian women, we are always searching for ways to be a better servant of God. To be a kinder, more compassionate Christian. The Bible is the root source for all instruction in manners and etiquette.

As mothers and grandmothers we can teach these rules to boys and girls, both young and old. It can be fun to teach some of these simple rules of etiquette to our children and others.  It is easy to see how many of these rules can be added to our own personal lives. This article’s general theme is wholly supported by God’s written word. You can see where this article took many of its thoughts from the book of Psalms and other scripture. Proverbs 15:23 reads: “A man hath joy by the answering of his mouth, and a word spoken in due season, how good is it!”

Consider these:

  • Never betray a confidence.
  • Never leave home with unkind words.
  • Never give a promise that you do not fulfill.
  • Never speak much of your own performances.
  • Never fail to give a polite answer to a civil question.
  • Never punish your child for a fault to which you are addicted yourself.
  • Never forget that, if you are faithful in a few things, you may be ruler over many.
  • Never fail to tell the truth. If truthful, you get your reward. You will get your punishment if you deceive.
  • Never refuse to receive an apology.
  • Never give all your pleasant words and smiles to strangers.

Sadly, the time of the importance of proper decorum has faded out of our society.  Another definition for decorum is propriety or the quality of being proper. As Christian wives and mothers we can help to rekindle the proper manners and conduct that defines a person’s character and defines the society we live in. We should not be afraid of teaching proper rules of conduct that should be expected of our children and ourselves. With proper instruction we can guide our daughters to be modest and hospitable. We can also guide our sons to be kind and respectful. We all remember the old quote; “Building boys is better than mending men.”  Proverbs 20:11 tells us, “Even a child is known by his doings, whether his work be pure, and whether it be right.” How will your child be known?

We can teach these to our children:

  • Never attempt to draw the attention of the company constantly upon yourself.
  • Never pass between two persons who are talking together without an apology.
  • Never neglect to perform the commission, which the friend entrusted to you. You must not forget.
  • Never send your guest, who is accustomed to a warm room, off into a cold, damp, spare bed to sleep.
  • Never fail to answer an invitation, either personally or by letter, within a week after the invitation is received.
  • Never fail to say kind and encouraging words to those whom you meet in distress. Your kindness may lift them out of their despair.
  • Never insult another by harsh words when applied to for a favor.
  • Never fail to be punctual at the time appointed.
  • Never fail; if a gentleman, of being civil and polite to ladies.
  • Never associate with bad company. Have good company, or none.
  • Never enter a room noisily; never fail to close the door after you, and never slam it.
  • Never fail to offer the easiest and best seat in the room to an invalid, an elderly person, or a lady.
  • Never borrow money and neglect to pay. If you do, you will soon be known as a person of no business integrity.
  • Never fail to speak kindly.

When we read through these rules, we can see how some are easy to follow and how some will take a little more time to accomplish. We may have to form some new habits. “Sow an act and you reap a habit, sow a habit and you reap a character, sow a character and you reap a destiny.”  William S. Deal states: “Build carefully into your character daily what you want to be like in old age, for you are now becoming what you will some day permanently be.”  A godly character should be our goal everyday.

Our character is formed by instruction, by example, and by the blessings and hardships we face in this life. The little acts of etiquette will be a defining element into who we truly are. God’s word says, “A man shall be satisfied with good by the fruit of his mouth; and the recompense of a man’s hands shall be rendered unto him” (Proverbs 12:14).  What we say and what we do will define us and we will be accountable to God for all.  Applying proper etiquette and manners can only bring joy and kindness to both the giver and the receiver.  Have fun establishing etiquette and making manners!

By Susan Follis
Susan Follis lives in Lamar, Colorado. She and her husband, Jim, have been married almost 34 years. They have six children and four grandchildren. She loves learning about being a godly wife and mother.


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Bless This Nest

Autumn is falling all around us. God in His infinite wisdom allows His creation a time to wind down and relax. This time of the year makes me feel more relaxed and calm, too. The crunching of the leaves and the coolness in the air all aid in a tranquil atmosphere.

God is an exceptional and awesome artist! And we can use this time full of brilliant and soothing colors to prepare out home for the winter solstice. 

“Raise the song of harvest home; all is safely gathered in, ‘ere the winter storms begin.” ~ Henry Alford

God’s autumn season is a good time for us to create a clean and cozy home for our family and visitors. Making our homes a place of beauty, comfort and joy is a serious job and one that requires heavenly assistance. Autumn is a time of reflection and gathering. As we prepare our homes for the end of the year we need to pray about how we can make our homes a warm and comfortable refuge for all who enter. We need to pray for our physical and spiritual strength as household activities change and our home is more occupied.

It is helpful to make a list of all the chores and projects you would like to complete as summer ends and before winter begins. Making a “Leaf List” for your autumn agenda is an easier way to be disciplined in your tasks.  It is always a joy to cross off the completed tasks… unless you are like me and somehow the list keeps regenerating as I cross off one item and add two more. Planning for a happy autumn-time is a fun project and it will bring joy to your household. “Commit your works to the Lord, and your thoughts will be established.” Proverbs 16:3

Cleaning the house of the summer long accumulation of cobwebs and dust can be easily accomplished when we hold in our hearts the joy of seeing our loved ones comfortable in our home. Another great motivator is when we realize that God has given us the task of homemaking and He is the unseen observer in all that we do. Remember that the inspired verse, “She looketh well to the ways of her household” applies to you and me (Proverbs 31:27).

Decorating our home with the colors and festivity of the autumn season can be a joy for the homemaker and for all the recipients of her efforts. Autumn colors are warm and bright; combining to give a cozy and comfortable feeling to all. Try creating a “welcome home” feeling that gently hugs all of those who enter your home.  Our homemaking efforts are a gift to our family and friends. Any gift takes some effort on our part, but it is well worth it when those who are in our home receive the message that we care about our homes and enjoy our homemaking tasks.

“God bless the home in which we live; God bless its every part.
God grant it peace and sweet content; God grace our every heart.”  ~Whitehouse

I would like to briefly mention a very important part of our homemaking success and that is to make sure that mama is emotionally, spiritually and physically capable of taking care of her family and home. A healthy body and attitude are important for making a happy home.  The saying that, “If mama ain’t happy, nobody’s happy” is so very true. A mama who is spiritually at her best will make the home and its occupants spiritually at their best. “You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on You. Because he trusts in You” (Isaiah 26:3). “Strength and honor are her clothing; she shall rejoice in time to come” (Proverbs 31: 25).

Don’t be afraid to put on your “June Cleaver” apron and play some cheerful music as you tackle your “Leaf List” for the season. Don’t forget to make your windows shiny for all to have a clear view of life as seen from inside your home. Don’t be afraid to “de-clutter” as you “putter” around the house. If you are unsure if you should save or discard an item, ask yourself if this item will enhance or bless your home or if it will not be missed if thrown away. It is surprising how much we can let go of if we know that it will not affect the quality of our life and home.

In days gone by, the autumn-time was looked forward to and it was a wonderful time for gatherings and for counting your blessings. A godly homemaker can carry on old family traditions or begin her own new ones. It will always bring joy to our children and to our children’s children when there are fond memories from the many traditions that mama has brought to the autumn season. I am sure we could all think of many wonderful ideas for autumn traditions, but here are a few: You can have fun decorating your home with fall colors and special decorations. Light many candles and make the home smell of cinnamon and nutmeg all through the cooler days. You can plan a fun Fall Festival with games and treats, along with decent and humorous costumes. Place hay bales around the yard and let the children play with them. Choose a special pumpkin recipe and make it a yearly request. Don’t forget to visit a local pumpkin patch (they are usually free) and have everyone carve his or her own pumpkin.  And most importantly, continually point out to your family the artistic blessings from God with a “Thank you, God” throughout the autumn-time. 

Let’s all work to put the “sweet” back in “home sweet home.” There are so many ways a godly woman can bless her nest and this autumn-time is a good opportunity to make your home a beautiful and comfortable haven for all your family and friends. Let your home praise God with your deeds and your words.  Happy homemaking!

By Susan Follis
Susan Follis lives in Lamar, Colorado. She and her husband, Jim, have been married almost 34 years. They have six children and four grandchildren. She loves learning about being a godly wife and mother.


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Homemaking for God

There was a time in history that managing a home was considered a worthy occupation.  It was important for a mother to teach her daughter(s) the skills of running an efficient and happy household.  Today if your daughter desires to be a homemaker, the world has to offer their biased and unsolicited advice against that choice. It is very sad when Christians try to dissuade young ladies from being homemakers. There is an unending joy in being able to be a homemaker. We need to be sure to teach the many different skills for homemaking to our daughters and others, and not to make it sound like a drudgery or an unhappy, tiresome job that we do not want to do.

Through God’s help, I have been a homemaker for 29 years and all three of my daughters desire to be homemakers. My three sons would like to marry a godly woman who desires to be a homemaker.  I have tried to instill in my own daughters that homemaking is an art and that it is fun and challenging.  It can be very hard and seem that of an unending and unappreciated task, but it is well worth it.  I have found great pleasure in making a home, caring for it and teaching my daughters and others the joy of homemaking. But, no matter the degree of time each godly woman can invest in her homemaking, we need to be sure to give it our best and make it enjoyable and a lasting art.

I know that it is often hard to be different from the norm or to be counter-culture in your thinking.  The modern world does not think that homemaking is anything to be concerned about.  Sadly, judges a person on their accomplishments and monetary value. A homemaker’s value can be measured in her accomplishments, but never monetarily.  A doctor may save a person’s physical life, but a homemaker’s children may have been taught important facts to save a life and a soul. Many children have become faithful to God through a mother’s fervent prayers and selfless service.  Many of these children’s friends have become Christians due to being welcomed into a godly home where a happy homemaker has shown her talents.

Joyfulness and peacefulness in our homemaking are a necessity for our children and our husbands. They need to look forward to their peaceful home that the godly woman has made for them. Even if a woman’s efforts seem unnoticed, God sees all our homemaking efforts. 

“ I looked on child rearing not only as a work of love and duty but as a profession that was fully as interesting and challenging as any honorable profession in the world and one that demanded the best that I could bring to it.”  ~ Rose Kennedy (mother of J.F. Kennedy)

A homemaker designs her home.  Like in her childish dreams, a woman can now actually design and make her own unique household. The possibilities are endless. She also builds a child’s character and makes that child an asset to this world (or not). Good living of kindness, honesty, sharing and sacrificing are largely caught, more than taught. Your children will “catch” whatever is floating around in their little environment. A woman and mother, just by her nature alone, is better equipped to love and to teach her own children and to love and care for her own husband. Most husbands will see and appreciate a wife making a household run smoothly and with artful interests displayed throughout.  It warms a man’s heart to know his wife and children are happy in the home that he is the head of.

In all areas of life and especially homemaking, boredom and dissatisfaction are of a woman’s own making.  It is heartbreaking for me when a woman says, “I could never stay home all day and not have a job to get away to.”  Sadly, attitude has a lot to do with being successful in making a home a godly haven for our loved ones. At times a woman may want to help with the family income outside of the home, but hopefully her homemaking will not be neglected and still be an important area in her life.  It may be harder, but not impossible. God will bless our efforts, for He wrote to us about women being the homemaker! Women make the home or break the home.

 “So much of what we learn of love we learn at home.”

Homemakers should always be kind and understanding in her expressions about homemaking.  Homemakers should also encourage young women to be content homemakers and provide helpful examples and instructions for them. Still today, as in past years, marriage and motherhood are the dreams of most all-young girls. That is a worthy ambition.  Homemaking is a job that is very satisfying and rewarding, but as in any job, it depends on how much you will put into it. Homemaking is a wonderful job and it may have hard days and days that leave you weary, but what job doesn’t?  It is time for godly women to encourage the art of homemaking and pass on the wisdom and skills of homemaking to their daughters and other young women.  It is a talented art and truly is fun! All women are equipped with the natural desire to have a happy and pleasant home.

Happy homemaking!!

“ To keep debt, dirt, and the devil out of my cottage has been my greatest wish ever since we set up housekeeping; and although the last of the three has sometimes got in by the door or the window, for the old serpent will wriggle through the smallest crack, yet thanks to a good wife, hard work, honesty, and scrubbing brushes, the two others have not crossed the threshold.”
~ C.H. Spurgeon

By Susan Follis
Susan Follis lives in Lamar, Colorado. She and her husband, Jim, have been married almost 34 years. They have six children and four grandchildren. She loves learning about being a godly wife and mother.


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